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It’s good that you’ve taken control of your own life and its direction. Being the first daughter can be challenging in African families.

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Thank you Dey. It can be quite difficult for sure.

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It's a lot of responsibility!

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I heavily related to this article. Although, for me I can’t help but feel as thought I tried being perfect and strongly desiring perfectionism as the oldest all while being imperfect at the same time and self sabotaging relationships. But, I’m learning and growing and glowing

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It's such a conundrum - the push and pull of it all! At least we're all becoming self-aware

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Thank you for sharing your experience Ketsia. After all it’s the imperfections that compliments our experiences in the most beautiful way.

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"I had built a prison around me, brick by brick, with perfectionism and people-pleasing as the mortar."

Oof! This was loud. Thanks for sharing.

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The pleasure is all mine. I’m glad we have a safe space to share our most intimate experiences of life and we get to heal from our past trauma as black women.

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