I think particularly in America the cultural positioning of rugged individualism seeps its way into everything, even love. My belief is Loveland (the place where love resides) is only reached through others. Whether as a child and parented well (which is a privilege) or through friendships, therapy, or romantic relationships. The point that you don’t have to love yourself first is factual because we are always works in progress but that doesn’t mean we have to be cut off from what makes life worth living as if we are excluded from a prize.
I don't necessarily think it's BS. I just don't think we know what loving ourselves looks like. I think recognizing that he was good man and a good person to have in her life is an act of loving yourself. What I think we get misconstrued is the idea that loving yourself means you're ok with not being in a relationship and that you feel sufficient unto yourself. That I think is the BS of it all. In the end though, the path to loving ourselves does start with someone else's love for us. It serves as a reference point for us to follow and a byproduct of that relationship includes a stronger love for ourselves.
Amazing read! I felt some parallels in her story through my own love story. I was looking for ways to express it so I’m grateful to have read her words🫶🏾
This essay made me feel so warm inside 🫶🏾
Aw, so glad!
I think particularly in America the cultural positioning of rugged individualism seeps its way into everything, even love. My belief is Loveland (the place where love resides) is only reached through others. Whether as a child and parented well (which is a privilege) or through friendships, therapy, or romantic relationships. The point that you don’t have to love yourself first is factual because we are always works in progress but that doesn’t mean we have to be cut off from what makes life worth living as if we are excluded from a prize.
Thank you for this piece.
I don't necessarily think it's BS. I just don't think we know what loving ourselves looks like. I think recognizing that he was good man and a good person to have in her life is an act of loving yourself. What I think we get misconstrued is the idea that loving yourself means you're ok with not being in a relationship and that you feel sufficient unto yourself. That I think is the BS of it all. In the end though, the path to loving ourselves does start with someone else's love for us. It serves as a reference point for us to follow and a byproduct of that relationship includes a stronger love for ourselves.
Amazing read! I felt some parallels in her story through my own love story. I was looking for ways to express it so I’m grateful to have read her words🫶🏾
Thank you for sharing!!! Reading your story gives me hope that I can find love too.