I think particularly in America the cultural positioning of rugged individualism seeps its way into everything, even love. My belief is Loveland (the place where love resides) is only reached through others. Whether as a child and parented well (which is a privilege) or through friendships, therapy, or romantic relationships. The point that you don’t have to love yourself first is factual because we are always works in progress but that doesn’t mean we have to be cut off from what makes life worth living as if we are excluded from a prize.
This essay made me feel so warm inside 🫶🏾
Aw, so glad!
I think particularly in America the cultural positioning of rugged individualism seeps its way into everything, even love. My belief is Loveland (the place where love resides) is only reached through others. Whether as a child and parented well (which is a privilege) or through friendships, therapy, or romantic relationships. The point that you don’t have to love yourself first is factual because we are always works in progress but that doesn’t mean we have to be cut off from what makes life worth living as if we are excluded from a prize.
Thank you for this piece.