Loved writing about this and my experience with the stigma that comes with a lack of dating experience! Thanks to all the Black women who've read this and reached out personally to share how they resonate with my experience.
I can relate to feeling like an oddball in society for not actively dating. I never been in a serious adult relationship either, and it has caused some insecurity as well. But I also realized a lot of people in relationships are settling and putting up with toxic behaviors just for the comfortability and that's not something I'm willing to do. While I really have no desire to play the dating game again, I do wish to find love one day, but I'm comfortable enough in my solitude to find happiness in other areas.
As an African auntie, you accurately describe the mindset of many of them. It's unfortunate, and I'm glad I've never been of that mindset. I value relationships, but they must stop making women feel inferior for being single. Happiness, to me, is what truly matters.
But have you actually never been on a train or seen a sci-fi movie? Are these things you want to change? lol I guess
Anyway, I don’t see the point in being active in other areas of life that’s within our purview, getting a job, finding a place to live, etc. but take a passive approach to romantic relationships. No ones saying hunt for men but are you visible where the kind of man you’d like to be with would be able to find you? Online and/or in person, there’s things you can do on your part to maximize your chances of finding someone right for you if that’s what you desire.
Loved writing about this and my experience with the stigma that comes with a lack of dating experience! Thanks to all the Black women who've read this and reached out personally to share how they resonate with my experience.
Thanks so much for sharing your story, Tabby! ❤️
Obsessed with this piece. We don't talk about the dating stigma enough. Also I live in Mexico City so it made me excited that you are here! 😂
I just left but it's one of the my favorite places to visit! Jealous that you live there
I can relate to feeling like an oddball in society for not actively dating. I never been in a serious adult relationship either, and it has caused some insecurity as well. But I also realized a lot of people in relationships are settling and putting up with toxic behaviors just for the comfortability and that's not something I'm willing to do. While I really have no desire to play the dating game again, I do wish to find love one day, but I'm comfortable enough in my solitude to find happiness in other areas.
That part! And ultimately, I think that's the best place to be, Kennadi, thanks for reading and sharing 🫶🏿✨
It's actually okay to be single until you meet your match. The dating scene has changed over the years. Who needs dating experience anyway?
As an African auntie, you accurately describe the mindset of many of them. It's unfortunate, and I'm glad I've never been of that mindset. I value relationships, but they must stop making women feel inferior for being single. Happiness, to me, is what truly matters.
You need to report back to the African aunties to leave us alone 😩 lol
But have you actually never been on a train or seen a sci-fi movie? Are these things you want to change? lol I guess
Anyway, I don’t see the point in being active in other areas of life that’s within our purview, getting a job, finding a place to live, etc. but take a passive approach to romantic relationships. No ones saying hunt for men but are you visible where the kind of man you’d like to be with would be able to find you? Online and/or in person, there’s things you can do on your part to maximize your chances of finding someone right for you if that’s what you desire.