I strongly believe that one should do what is comfortable to them. In my opinion, I see nothing inexact with keeping one’s maiden name as long as it is discussed & sanctioned by both to avoid katakata.
Agreed, but as Juliette pointed out, in some cultures it's more a "given" that the woman's last name will change whether she wants it to or not. But you would think in 2025 that more couples would be okay with whatever the people in the partnership decide for themselves
I think it's really interesting. A name is an identity and to simply discard when one gets married has never sat well with since I was a child. I recently saw this tweet where the person was talking his newly married friends that decided to shed their surnames and create a new one for themselves and it made me realize the importance of choice. Just because something is tradition doesn't mean it should be held at the expense of people. People make tradition not the other way round.
Hey, Nigerian here too! I kept mine when I got married. The main reason was that I married a white guy and I knew that if we had a child I'd want them to know where they were from. I also wanted to hold on to my heritage even more. I'm even more happy with my decision because the current administration is trying to push a bill that would disenfranchised you if you name doesn't match your birth certificate. That's a large number of married women. So yeah! I'm keeping my maiden name.
This is beautiful 💚💚💚
Thank you 🖤
I strongly believe that one should do what is comfortable to them. In my opinion, I see nothing inexact with keeping one’s maiden name as long as it is discussed & sanctioned by both to avoid katakata.
Agreed, but as Juliette pointed out, in some cultures it's more a "given" that the woman's last name will change whether she wants it to or not. But you would think in 2025 that more couples would be okay with whatever the people in the partnership decide for themselves
I think it's really interesting. A name is an identity and to simply discard when one gets married has never sat well with since I was a child. I recently saw this tweet where the person was talking his newly married friends that decided to shed their surnames and create a new one for themselves and it made me realize the importance of choice. Just because something is tradition doesn't mean it should be held at the expense of people. People make tradition not the other way round.
Hello Sarah, I totally agree. A name carries so much history and personal meaning. The idea of creating a new surname is really interesting.
Never even considered it.
Hey, Nigerian here too! I kept mine when I got married. The main reason was that I married a white guy and I knew that if we had a child I'd want them to know where they were from. I also wanted to hold on to my heritage even more. I'm even more happy with my decision because the current administration is trying to push a bill that would disenfranchised you if you name doesn't match your birth certificate. That's a large number of married women. So yeah! I'm keeping my maiden name.
Hi sis!🖤🖤 Holding on to your heritage, especially in an interacial marriage, is such a powerful move.
Right, his last name means clerk and mine means Right hand of the King! It was a no brainer. Even he was like I'd prefer your name honestly haha
What a beautiful and powerful name 🥹